My husband decided this year, as a way to save on Christmas expenses, to forfeit getting gifts for one another and only focus on gifting our kids. All of which would have been absolutely fine, except for one tiny detail, he forgot to tell me about his plan. So Christmas morning comes, he and I typically exchange one small gift to one another, but this year, not knowing his plan, and having a plan of my own, I splurged on him and gave him FIVE gifts (that’s a big deal in our house, ha!) And the one and only gift I recieved was from myself. 🤣 I figured since I had so many gifts for him, the kids may wonder what Mommy did so wrong to only get one gift. Hence, the thought to buy a small gift to wrap for myself, giving me at least two to open. Good thing, huh?! A fail on both our attempts, or was it?
This look of utter confusion washed over his face as he looked over his assortment of presents and then sadness filled his eyes as he realized I had only one present in front of me from an unknown source. Still very puzzled he asked if I forgot our idea to not gift one another, to which I admittedly knew nothing about. Oh, the stories we have to reminisce on!
I’m sure there are some wives or husbands who would be quite disgusted with their spouses intent to gift them nothing. In fact, I know of a husband and wife who just last year went through exactly this. Funds were tight, the wife bought for the husband, but because the husband gave nothing to his wife, she withheld the gifts she had for him. Then she proceeded to chastise him throughout the year about forgetting her. Honestly, in today’s society, such a response would be applauded and cheered. Her resistance against his ignorance would be congratulated with a pat on the back, and a big “ada girl”. But, what I was reminded of this Christmas as I sat watching everyone ripping into gifts I took time to research, shop for, order, and wrap, was how fortunate I was to experience Christmas in a way we preach it to truly be. Giving and not recieving. If we can pay for a strangers meal in the car behind us, no strings attached, or give money to a family struggling to pay bills with no intent to see the favor returned, why are we so adamant about recieving immediate gifts from our loved ones, the people within our own home, on a day we stress “it’s all about giving”!?
I’ll admit, I’m no saint, and my first initial reaction allowed my heart to be a little hurt. Thankfully I’m learning the art of being quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to get angry. By processing what just happened I started to see the miracle in it all! I hadn’t been forgotten, I hadn’t been neglected. I had just recieved the most precious Christmas gift ever! I gave and watched the excitement in everyone’s eyes, with the intent to share my love with the people God placed directly into our home. And in immediate return I recieved nothing. Exactly what our Heavenly Father so lovingly did for us all those many years ago. The exact reason for the season. He gave His most precious gift, His Son, as a sacrifice for the one’s He so loved. And in immediate return, recieved nothing. His Son gave up His place in Glory, to come to this Earth as a sacrifice for His Father’s people. And in immediate return recieved nothing.
Now my measly “no gift” experience is minuscule in comparison to what They gave, but you get the point. Maybe you also didn’t recieve what you immediately expected this Christmas season. Good for you, you gave to not recieve. Let’s live that into the New Year, into the near future. Give of your time, give encouragment, give of your acts of service and your thoughtful gifts with no intent to ever recieve back. Especially for the people that fill your home. Somehow, God has seen it fit to allow them to be a part of you. Love that gift wisely. And in due time, watch that gift grow into something only God can build, within you, and those around you. Merry Christmas friends and I hope you have a very giving New Year!
*”One gives freely, yet grows all the richer; another withholds what he should give, and only suffers want. Whoever brings blessing will be enriched, and one who waters will himself be watered.” Proverbs 11: 24-25